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Blogger Looking for Love, 52 Blind Dates This Year

Julie Janus needs a Valentine's Day date—just like she needs a date every week this year in her quest to go on 52 blind dates in 2012.

Julie Janus is 27 and single.

She wants everyone to know it—and get her some dates.

Janus’ mission this year is to go on 52 blind dates—one each week.

“I'm sick of being single! I don't really think this is going to lead me anywhere, but it's a good start,” she wrote on her blog chronicling the project. “My counselor (back when I thought I could afford to have a counselor) once said to me, ‘If you wanted a new job, you would probably spend at least an hour a day looking at ads, filling out applications, and interviewing. If you are serious about wanting a relationship, you need to put in the same amount of effort.’”

So effort it is, the Richfield resident said with a deadpan tone. Janus spoke about the project openly and matter-of-factly. She constantly joked and laughed about it while still taking  it seriously. The gimmicky project is a reflection of her eclectic personality. Outgoing and sure of herself comes from her work in Inver Grove Heights with a theater company.

“It started as a joke,” Janus said recalling a day last November when she and her girlfriends were talking about a dude she was seeing who wasn’t working out. “I just said ‘Next year, I’m going on 52 dates.’ At some point it stopped being a joke.”

The ultimate goal, she said would be to meet someone who she is compatible with and develop a relationship.

“That very well might not happen, though, so I have some secondary goals. I am hoping to expand my understanding of what I'm looking for in a relationship by meeting people that I wouldn't normally consider as romantic possibilities,” she wrote in her blog. “I'm also looking forward to going to new coffee shops/restaurants/places in the cities that I wouldn't usually frequent.”

Her blog talks about each date, using aliases for the men she’s seeing as well as detailing some of her frustrations about the project.

One of the biggest frustrations, Janus admits, is finding men to go date.

“I’ve lived here for 4 1/2 years and all my friends have told me they have no single male friends to set me up with the entire time,” she admitted. “But I guess I didn’t really listen and thought when I started this project they’d come up with single male friends. It’s been a lot harder than I thought.”

The difficulty isn’t coming from a lack of effort, though, Julie said. She’s a member of a few dating websites and does her own amount of man searching.

“I’m not a passive person, it’s hard for me to sit back and be demure,” she said. “I’m not waiting for things to happen. People say when you stop looking for love you’ll find it but that’s hard to hear. I’m not a terribly social person and this is my way of looking for what I want.”

She said she continually hounds her friends to develop some single male friends, searches online each night and tries to keep bugging people.

Her project, though, isn’t an act of desperation. She openly talks about the project to anyone who asks—and discloses her plan to the men—who were just numbers or ideas until she actually started meeting them.

“It’s hard trying to not get emotionally attached to the men after the first date knowing there are many more blind dates to follow,” she said. “It’s weird to sit across from someone and think about how they’re not just a number in the project—they’re a real person.”

Her dating history has been relationships. As nontraditional as she may seem about this project she wants what most people want.

“I like relationships a lot,” she said. “I take relationships fairly seriously. I’m not the kind of person who just dates. I was hoping I’d meet someone and call this project off before it finishes.”

Without discrimination, Janus is accepting suitors and looking for dates. She can be reached through her blog.

Shelley Valley February 09, 2012 at 05:03 PM
OK, not trying to be mean here, but part of this woman's problem of why she's still single is that she looks 35-40. Get in shape, modernize your look to the times. Second, forget blind dates. Hang out where men hang out and become knowledgeable about the things that interest them: the gun range, motor sports events, hunting/fishing, outdoors stuff. Believe me, you'll quickly become fascinating to men.
Kelyn rodrigues February 09, 2012 at 07:12 PM
I really look forward to reading Julie's blog. I wrote a similar blog called the blind date marathon. That too started as a joke with my friends! check it out. I wrote about 20 dates but it was pretty funny and I learnt a lot. It will be interesting to see how Julie's experience compares. http://thedatingmarathon.blogspot.com/
Al Tate February 09, 2012 at 09:41 PM
Shelley, nice male stereotypes of where men hang out! That gave me a good laugh. Who goes to the gun range looking for dudes? Come on! That's like us men hanging out at Ulta to scope out babes. Although there are hot babes at Ulta so maybe it is a good idea. My problem is that if this was a man he would be called a pig, selfish a player. I'd hate to be date, say 19, knowing you have to wait for her to go through 33 other men to get a chance. Does she go on second dates and do these men then know about these dates? This also, while supposed to be fun, sounds desperate. Now if a man meets her and likes her, he will eventually Google her - everyone does it - and this article is going to show up and that man is going to be like "hmmmm......nutso!"
Caitlin Burgess (Editor) February 09, 2012 at 11:44 PM
I don't think that a man doing this would be called a player. She is telling them what's going on. Now, if she was being secretive, that would be another story. She also said that while the goal is to have 52 dates this year, she's hoping to meet someone great in the process and "call the whole thing off." Do people really Google search their dates? Ha! I've never thought about it, but may do so in the future!
Marie L February 10, 2012 at 03:46 AM
News Flash, Shelley:: If you have to say "not trying to be mean here", that's your first indication that not only are you being mean, but you're stupid for admitting it. I think you need to make your comments more attractive. Stop being ugly. Julie-you're my hero.
Amore International February 10, 2012 at 09:01 AM
Nice post! BTW blind dating is a truly cat in the box you know... I hope Julie Janus will find her dream-man. To my mind there are many dating related information on the RussiAmore blog: http://bit.ly/yj1kzO
Jim Edward February 10, 2012 at 01:35 PM
Julie, it might help if you list your abilities, such as knowing how to cook, clean, wash clothes, iron, sew, and give back rubs. It might also help if you can bait your own hook and wash the boat. Hope this helps.
Julie Janus February 10, 2012 at 03:32 PM
I am enjoying all of the comments, but Jim, yours is definitely my favorite.
Ken Coy February 10, 2012 at 05:47 PM
After reading this and looking at her picture, I have a hard time understanding why Julie would need to resort to this. She has a great sense of humor, she has a lot of interests, she's involved in theater (okay, that's a personal bias since I'm also involved in theater), she's very attractive, and she just seems like she'd be a lot of fun to spend time with. Maybe the last name scares people off?
Patti M February 10, 2012 at 05:53 PM
Jim - It sounds like you would be more interested in a mother! (or a wife who can fish). I can do all those things and I too would like a 'wife' or 'mother' (in the male persuasion) to take care of me. Get Real! Those aren't abilities. EVERYONE should be able to do all of them (except maybe bait the hook).
Jaclyn February 10, 2012 at 08:49 PM
Ken!! Go on a date with Julie then :)
Lorna Wilson February 10, 2012 at 08:56 PM
Ken - if you want to get set up with Julie, email her at 52BlindDates@gmail.com (Also, what's scary about the last name?)
Jim Edward February 11, 2012 at 03:40 PM
Yeah! Go ahead Ken. Just remember it'll cost you $50.00 hush money for me not to tell your wife.:-)
Ken Coy February 13, 2012 at 06:30 PM
Jaclyn - I would in a heartbeat if I wasn't already spoken for ;) Sorry Jim, no hush money for you ;-)
Ken Coy February 13, 2012 at 06:32 PM
Lorna - I would, but I doubt if my spousal unit would approve. Jesse Ventura's real last name is Janus (that makes it scary for some people).
Lorna Wilson February 13, 2012 at 08:22 PM
Ha, Ken - good point, it's best not to be going on dates with new people while married. BTW, Jesse's original name was Janos - a key vowel difference!
Caitlin Burgess (Editor) February 13, 2012 at 09:45 PM
This is fun to read. Julie, have you lined up any more dates since this piece went live?
Nikki February 15, 2012 at 04:11 AM
Julie- I may have a guy friend that you may be interested in. Let me know if you want his name and number. Good luck on your search!
Scotty The Hotty February 15, 2012 at 03:20 PM
Julie, saw the tv interview last night. My wife looked at me and said "you would think she would at least do her hair for a TV interview". I agree with her, the "just got out of the shower and threw on my comfy's look for TV? Come on!"
Sara Smith February 15, 2012 at 06:15 PM
Julie ... You need to do some reading. (1) "Mars & Venus on a Date" by John Gray. (2) "Have Him at Hello: Confessions from 1,000 Guys About What Makes Them Fall in Love . . . Or Never Call Back" by Rachel Greenwald. (3) "All the Rules: Time-tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right" by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider. (4) Why Men Love Bitches (BabeInTotalControlOfHerself) by Sherry Argov. (5) "He's Just Not That Into You" by Greg Behrendt. Why is it that people think they know how to date well when they have never done any reading or research on it? Once you do, you'll be amazed how much better it goes. Also, I must second the notion to update your look. When I saw you on TV yesterday, I thought you were well into your 30s. Like it or not, looks are an important part of dating, especially for men ... which you will understand better once you do the reading. Best regards.
Ken Coy February 15, 2012 at 06:16 PM
You're right, Lorna. That is a significant difference. I had a brain cramp there ;-)
Ken Coy February 15, 2012 at 06:18 PM
Jim's rather attached. Of course, if he'd like to pay me some hush money . . .
Ken Coy February 15, 2012 at 06:24 PM
Sara, Just one little point about your post. Looks are just as important to women as they are to men when looking for possible dates.
Jim Edward February 15, 2012 at 10:12 PM
Ken, how much hush money are we talking here? Julie is a good looking girl.
Julie Janus February 16, 2012 at 05:47 PM
Ha, trust me, I wish I could have! Did you read my blog about it? I was at work when I was contacted and only had 30 minutes to prepare. If I had known that morning I was going to be on TV, I would have put in some effort!
Kelyn Rodrigues (@lagerblushblog) February 25, 2012 at 12:38 PM
A surprise TV appearance? I think that you should take a photo of you before every date so that we can see what you looked like on each one. At least you didnt get playdoh down you like i did on my first blogged date! http://thedatingmarathon.blogspot.com/2011_09_01_archive.html
Kelyn Rodrigues (@lagerblushblog) February 25, 2012 at 12:48 PM
Reading might help give you a few things to ponder over. But I bet you most of the people who read these self help books are still single or divorced! Looking for a formula for love is more desperate than going on a comical 52 first dates dare! & Take it from a tomboy, gender stereotyping your date might just be what puts them off you. Good luck to you Julie! "Why are you still Single? How to answer the question" http://thedatingmarathon.blogspot.com/p/my-relationship-history.html "Why looks shouldn't be as important as you think" http://thedatingmarathon.blogspot.com/2012/02/cupcake-flop-theory-yes-this-is-about.html
Sara Smith March 19, 2012 at 05:05 AM
Kelyn ... Uhm, yes, the people who read books about dating are indeed very likely to be single or divorced. The point to reading them would be to learn good dating and relationship skills in order to more successfully date and have good relationships. Why would married people read books about dating? Also, the five books listed above would give Julie way more than "a few things to ponder over." They could and probably would revolutionize her dating life and allow her to have a much better relationship or marriage than she would if she never read them.
Jack Action April 08, 2012 at 07:44 PM
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